KT and I had plans on Saturday to attend a wedding of a dear friend. It had been on the calendar for months. Saturday morning he received a call for a sister in the ward chastising him for not showing up for a move he didn't even commit to because of said wedding. Making it seem as if no one was there and she was in desperate need of his help, he dropped our plans and took our boys to help with the move. Ladybug became my date which was fine, I was trying to take the rejection in stride. A few minutes before the ceremony began this sister slipped in with her
HUSBAND. Am I missing something? She was in desperate need of man help and her
HUSBAND came with her to the wedding? I was so angry!! She tried to make small talk with me after the ceremony. "What a cute date I had"...I was just biting my tongue trying not to say something very inappropriate for a church building. Instead I saved it for my husband. I was not the nicest person. It wasn't pretty. I am not proud of myself. My children looked at me as if I had had a nervous breakdown. What kind of a person am I begrudging the service KT provided? Perhaps I have judged too harshly, shame on me for judging at all! What would your reaction have been in a scenario such as this?
Hint: (I'm looking for a little validation here). 
KT and I had plans on Saturday to attend a wedding of a dear friend. It had been on the calendar for months. Saturday morning he received a call for a sister in the ward chastising him for not showing up for a move he didn't even commit to because of said wedding. Making it seem as if no one was there and she was in desperate need of his help, he dropped our plans and took our boys to help with the move. Ladybug became my date which was fine, I was trying to take the rejection in stride. A few minutes before the ceremony began this sister slipped in with her HUSBAND. Am I missing something? She was in desperate need of man help and her HUSBAND came with her to the wedding? I was so angry!! She tried to make small talk with me after the ceremony. "What a cute date I had"...I was just biting my tongue trying not to say something very inappropriate for a church building. Instead I saved it for my husband. I was not the nicest person. It wasn't pretty. I am not proud of myself. My children looked at me as if I had had a nervous breakdown. What kind of a person am I begrudging the service KT provided? Perhaps I have judged too harshly, shame on me for judging at all! What would your reaction have been in a scenario such as this? Hint: (I'm looking for a little validation here). 
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ReplyDeleteAnd I don't think this would have happened at our house because my husband is pretty good about being the jerk and saying no. He would be the one to go off on the lady after getting off the phone with her!
Wow, that is a majorly crappy situation! I don't know what I would have done. I probably would have said something, but in a non-accusatory, round about way.
ReplyDeleteHaving a husband with the same calling as KT, I totally sympathize. I don't and can't understand the double standard that some people have.
ReplyDeleteWe have had similar situations happen and I am afraid I killed any chance of blessings with my anger. It is a very frustrating thing. Big C will probably never be released until I learn properly how to deal with these lessons. :D
Hang in there! I am impressed you still talked to her. I am afraid I would have killed her with my dirty looks. :D
Sounds like a case of manipulation and "guilting." I would be rather upset myself! I think that having anger over being mistreated and disrespected is justified.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion (for what it's worth)
ReplyDeleteJUDGE AWAY!! I get so irritated with the same 10 people always getting asked to do service projects...(anyone ever heard of a moving company?) The lexapro doesn't help my bitterness on this subject...can you tell you struck a nerve? :(
ok, these type of things almost make me lose my religion! seriously some curse words go flying through my head! I would be the same way. seething. and say nothing. Unless, she continued to try to speak to me. Then I could only hold in being cordial for so long.
ReplyDeleteI would then say, "OH, I didn't realize you were done moving. I can't wait to see my husband and boys come through the door.
wait for her answer and then
punch her in her mouf! LOL, oh sorry that's the tongan in me.
But, I would let her know in a round about way that I didn't understand why they were there and left a houseful of people serving.
See, at least your husband and boys were there under good intentions. If I showed up for service with ill feelings. I would only bring damnation unto myself. So, you wouldn't see me there in the first place. I would gladly go AFTER but not prior.
YOU ARE SO VALIDATED!
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I love your blog.
ReplyDeleteSecond of all you are a much better person than I am. I would have ripped that sisters head off right there in front of the whole church reception. That sister has a lot of nerve.
Feel Validated now?