When I was in high school, my boyfriend was an extrovert. He could stop and talk with anyone, he could remember names, faces and experiences as he struck up a conversation. Me, I was the quite, shy girlfriend who just stood there beside him. My best friend in high school was definitely an extrovert. She was fun loving, silly, giggly, often referred to as bubbly, and she just had that engaging personality that drew me to her side like a magnet.
So apparently, as an introvert, I am attracted to extroverts. They are fun to be around and drag me out of of my comfort zone. But here is the question...What does an extrovert have to gain from a relationship with an introvert? What do I have to offer? I'm 42 years old and still trying to figure that one out...
As a fellow introvert I feel that extroverts and introverts can balance each other out. The intro can help the extro learn how to be introspective, think before saying/acting, how to breathe and take in the moment every once in awhile, and to appreciate the small simple things in life. An extro can challenge the intros to step out of their comfort zone, let loose sometimes, not to analyze so much, and to be spontaneous. There needs to be more education out there about the introverts since we are the minority (25% of the population) so that we can understand each other and accept each others differences. That is why I like to teach it in my classes. The students seem to have "ah ha" moments especially introverts. They finally realize that there isn't anything wrong with them!
ReplyDeleteI hear ya sister! I am the same, and my husband is loud!! His family is loud! But, it is a good balance. It seems to work well for us! :)
ReplyDeleteThey give you balance! That is great.
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