Friday, September 3, 2010

I'm not a good friend

I'm not a very good friend.  It's true!  I have friends or acquaintances, I treat everyone decent.  (I hope).  I just don't make a very GOOD friend.  I'm not the kind of person someone calls up and says " Hey, let's go to lunch," or "let's go window shopping" or "let's go to a movie."  People just don't call me to do things like that.  I tried myself once or twice,  but, usually, I get denied.  Something happens when you become a wife and a mother, everything else takes a backseat my family will always take precedence.  Don't get me wrong, I would LOVE to have a girlfriend to do girly stuff with, but I think I am too stand offish.  My fault...It's from moving around too much.  It's hard to make close friends then move away.  What's even worse is when you have a close friend and she dumps you for someone else.  Since when did friendships become so much like dating?  The pain and hurt from past experiences prevents me from reaching out to other women in more than just a friendly manner.  That's why blogging has appealed to me.  I have met some wonderful women on here, and would even venture to call them my friends, but I won't call them up and ask them to go to a movie, because, basically, they live too far away.  Thus, this saves me from being denied.

My ramblings preclude me from solidifying my point which is...I don't know....


  1. I have made some true, true friends through blogging. I consider you a friend!

  2. I just have to say that I am the EXACT same way, unfortunately. It's just...safer. And even more unfortunate is the fact that most of the time, I'm okay with it. I'm okay with my family being my social life. By the way, I love that picture. :)

  3. wow - I thought I wrote this... :)

    creating new friendships is TOTALLY like dating! i have realized this recently also as most of my old friends have moved away, had more kids or any other life changing things that change the amount of time that can be dedicated to keeping a lasting friendship alive.

    very well said, my internet friend. :)

  4. My husband makes friends so easily so he worries that I dont have fiends. My best friend moved across the US 7 years ago I just cant seem to replace her no matter what I do. So Im trying to be content with having my husband and my sister as my buddies. Thank goodness for bloggy friends.

  5. It's hard for me to expand my circle of friends. One ex-friend was so clingy that I had to stop hanging out with her completely. I guess I'm more of an infrequent hang out type of friend.


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