Anniversary Advice

Today is my anniversary.  KT and I have been married for 24 years.  That's a long time especially in dog years, but I'm not saying we're dogs, just that its a long time.  It isn't always easy even though sometimes it might appear to be easy.  I'm married to a pretty opinionated guy, and pretty much he is always right even though he's not.  The motto that has helped my relationship survive this long is:  Relationships are more important than being right.  

A few years ago I also offered up this advice on making it work.

And also I described my marriage here.

What relationship/marriage advice do you have to offer?

 

How does this thing work?

On this day I have been married for 23 years or in September I'll have been married for 17.  I've married this man twice.  However you want to look at it....23 years?  17 years?  Pish posh! I'm still trying to figure out how this thing works.

KT is loud and opinionated while I am quiet, introspective and often shy.
KT likes to watch sports while I am more of an HGTV girl.
KT loves movies where things blow up, I prefer a romantic comedy.
KT likes to play golf, I like to run
KT can't stand it when the house is quiet, he has to have the TV on.  I prefer a bit of quiet solitude to buoy up my spirit.
KT drives fast, I keep the speed limit
KT prefers Diet Mountain Dew, while I enjoy Diet Cherry Coke.
KT likes cake, I like Ice cream
KT loves to discuss politics, I cringe at the idea.
KT likes Classic Rock, Dance tunes and Rap, I'm a country music girl

What is the glue that binds this thing together?  Sometimes our differences far outweigh our similarities!  But, we share the same religious and political views and that is so important.  (Fewer arguments in my estimation).  And, he makes me laugh.  Boy, can he make me laugh!  We share three children together.  The fruits of my labors, if you will....

What is the glue that binds your marriage together?

Anti - Valentine's Day

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This is the post where I go all Loco about Valentine's Day. It's a nice holiday and all, but its not for me. It's mostly commercial, and as my dear husband has pointed out before, "Every day is like Valentine's Day when you live with him." That used to bug the crap out of me, but you know I totally get it. If we can't be nice and do kind things for each other 364 days out of the year, then that one day, Valentine's Day, isn't really going to make any difference even if Hallmark tells us to... I'm not completely anti, I do buy my kids a treat and a card.

Once upon a time, I was fairly romantic. Yes, it's true. Crazy, right? I used to be creative about dates, and would write love notes and poems. After I got married, I wanted to carry on the same type of creative romantic traditions. After we were married a month, I cooked a romantic candlelit dinner. You know to celebrate one month. I was excited, this was special. But my dear husband didn't get it...He said, "Are you going to do this EVERY month we are married?" He was young (23) and immature, but it was then that I realized he didn't really care about all the extra fluff. All that effort I went through was not appreciated in the way I had hoped. After getting over the hurt, I realized it was not his love language, and over the years, it is no longer my love language either.

KT asked me the other day what I wanted for Valentine's Day, I guess he is trying to go all romantic on me after all these years, but I told him, if you have to ask, then don't bother. My love languages, are service, time and touch. I think he has a lot more work cut out for him than buying me a simple gift...

And if you want to read a Valentine's Facebook exchange between KT and I last year, you can read it here...Because what spells romance more than Facebook?

 

Anniversary & Boy Scouts

Today is my 22nd Anniversary to KT. Now that is a LONG time! But today, instead of choosing to spend it with me, moi he is spending it with a group of boy scouts doing this

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It is just a day...and we do have TWO anniversaries

(That's right!  I married this man of mine TWICE!)

He told me:

"Don't worry, baby, we'll celebrate next week in Oregon, 

with your parents 

and Ladybug
in the RV.  

(and in the same breath) 

Do you mind if I bring my golf clubs?"

And that is how we roll...

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21 Year Ago Today...

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...I became the ball and chain, a married woman basically signing my death sentence. In all actuality, it was the beginning of a very happy marriage. Here's to another year! Check out this post from last year since I am too busy out of town to come up with something more original. Buenos Dias!

Another Anniversary

I am lucky enough to have two anniversaries. My poor husband! He has to remember 2! We were sealed in the Washington, DC Temple 14 years ago. For those of you who are not of my faith, it means we were remarried in what we believe is a forever marriage, not just till death do us part. I just can't seem to shake this guy. Believe me, I've tried.

Anyway, it was a really neat experience because we were lucky enough to have our two year old Miguel and three year old TJ with us. The were so cute! Mom and Dad came from Colorado and my Grandma flew out from California. We were also blessed to have so many friends there from Lexington Park. I wish I took more pictures....

Happy Anniversary, AGAIN, KT

Aren't you glad you married me TWICE??!!

20 years down!

Happy Anniversary, KT!

I can't believe 20 years have gone by since we were married. I love him more now than I did then. I appreciate everything he does for our family as a provider, husband and father. Inside, I still feel like that young 20 year old bride, but my crows feet tell me otherwise.

Love you!

(Photo #2 courtesy of Angie Batis Photography)