When we first marry, there are these invisible lines of propriety. There are things that you just don't do in front of each other. The bathroom door remains closed when using the toilet. Farts, burps or other bodily functions are suppressed so as not to disrespect and embarrass ourselves. Even running to the toilet to throw up necessitates a few extra seconds to shut the door so our spouse doesn't hear the vile things coming from our mouths. Somewhere along the way the invisible lines of propriety become fuzzy and simply disappear. I don't know when it happened, for KT it was probably month 2, but for me it was several years into our marriage. Are your lines of propriety still clear or have yours simply become fuzzy and disappeared, too?
My cousin told me it was true love when one could "fart in your face" or "pop a zit" of my loved one. My sense of propriety couldn't handle that. There are things in my life where there is no longer a line, and others where the line has become a wall. I suppose we must take it all in stride! :)
ReplyDeleteThe only line we still follow, and honestly, now, only sometimes, is closing the door when it's a Number 2 situation. Glad I could share that with you.
ReplyDeleteThat line doesn't exist with us. I don't know how that happens but it seems like it was never there to begin with. I've sat and chatted with my hubby in the bathroom when he's doing his business, he farts all the time in front of the kids and me and I've figured if he's seen me in my worst state (giving birth) and didn't get grossed out by that, nothing else does. I mean he would go in the bathroom with me to hold my head or massage my back when I'm puking my guts out and I don't know about you but that to me is the most disgusting thing ever to witness, I don't care how in love I am with anyone(LOL).
ReplyDeleteI have no shame! It's nice to be so comfortable with someone that there are no secrets ...I remember when I used to be so discreet about everything but now, I'm an open book. Kids have done that to me...It's made it harder to switch gears when it's time to get romantic...
ReplyDeleteMy husband is very modest. So we still have lots of lines. He still says excuse me if he makes a burp or something and uses a downstairs bathroom if he needs to use it for a while. In fact, he doesn't like me to watch him wash his hair! (Kind of odd, but, whatever.) I think that's just who he is. He'll probably always have those manner boundaries. I'm less modest about closing the door. And I definitely don't care if he watches me wash my hair! I still say excuse me though if I need to!
ReplyDeleteI've only been dating Jordan for 2 years, so we still have quite a few boundary lines! Plus my mom raised me to be very self conscious of things like that, so it will probably take some time before I loosen up.
ReplyDeleteNo boundaries here. I think those disappeared during the honeymoon. But I'm happy that we can be completely comfortable with each other.
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