I recently posted when I knew my husband was the one. What about the one you thought was the one only to find out later that he wasn't the one? In high school, I thought I had found the one. He was a Senior and I was 15. He was my first kiss, my first boyfriend and it was amazing. We dated off an on for almost 4 years. In my little girl mind, I thought we would always be together. But choices and circumstances created differences and things changed. In His infinite wisdom, I was led elsewhere. I know the choices I made were right, I am happy, have a great husband and three beautiful kids. There is one regret, though. The family...
When you are part of someone's life for so long, you also love their family. They were an amazing bunch. I had little sisters! Four of them! They loved me, at least I thought that they did, and when we broke up it was like I broke up with them, too. I mean it would have been awkward to invite myself to family gatherings or offer my babysitting skills. But, I missed them...
I recently became reacquainted with one of my former sisters via the blogging world. She was a beautiful little girl who I adored. I got to babysit her for a couple of weekends. One weekend I babysat her was the weekend of my Seminary graduation. My parents couldn't make it, I think my dad had a work party or something, but I took Lindsay. I wonder now what people thought. A big sister or a single mom? I am grateful to have found her again...
You are very sweet :) We all loved you and I was always so excited to spend the weekend with "Lisa Lombard". You were like a celebrity to me :) Glad you found us!
ReplyDeleteOn a different note, it is hard to keep the familial ties strong when "the one" is gone. My brother in law passed away this past summer and we are doing everything in our power to keep his wife and daughter in our lives. They live across the country and could easily slip away, but we are certainly not going to let that happen!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you reconnected. That is what I love about blogging/Facebook, etc. We find long lost friends as well as new ones!
I love being reconnected with old friends! I saw you on SITS today!! You were right by me!!!
ReplyDeleteI have become closer with some of my family through blogging. It's amazing, isn't it!
ReplyDeleteI have also reconnected with old friends via the blog-o-sphere. I love blogging and I love all the new people it's brought into my life. That goes for you too Lisa!
ReplyDeleteHoly smokes, that sounds exactly like the guy I dated in high school! He was the second youngest of 11 so we hung out with his nieces and nephews all the time....plus I loved his mom! Definitely the saddest part of the relationship ending was losing the connection to his fam...that's cool you're in contact with them again!
ReplyDeleteYes..I've totally had this happen to me! I dated a guy for a little over 5 years and became very attached to his family...
ReplyDeleteIt was one of the reasons why I think I stayed with him as long as I did...
I don't keep in touch with them anymore, because I don't really want him to know about my life, now, and I feel like keeping in touch with them would give him that "in"...
Thankfully, I got my act together and I got out of that crazy relationship. It's funny the kinds of people we think we want to be with...but after many dating disasters, we end up with someone totally different from who you thought you'd end up with--someone who completes you and brings so much to you life...thankfully, I we made it to that person...
That is so neat that you were able to reconnect to someone who was so special to you...
I love the blogging world for this reason. There are so many people I wouldn't have reconnected with, had it not been for the blog craze.
ReplyDeleteI have a niece who is totally serious about her boyfriend. She is 15. You'd think they were going to get married someday. Maybe they will. He's a year older. Their families are so close though that if she actually did want to break up it would feel like a divorce because there are a lot of people involved. I'm not certain that's a healthy thing. But I guess it is what it is. I think being able to reconnect or maintain those other relationships after a break up would be a big accomplishment.
ReplyDeletei so understand dumping a boyfriend and giving up a family. I think it is hard for them as well, just because you don't date them doesn't mean you can't still like their family. This happened recently with my son. I wanted to support him and so we decided that its best to have no contact for 2 months. Give the dust a chance to settle and then come around every so often. As long as it is ok with the each of them. They split as friends
ReplyDeleteI'm a single mom. It took many years until his family and I got along. Today, I love spending time with them and it's great to have them back in my life.
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